Results in education can be a point of contention between parents and children. In most cases, kids tend to get better grades when parents are involved in their education but in some cases parents are doing more harm than good. The following are some things parents can do to help their children do better in school.
- Listen to What the Child Says She Needs from You – Let your child show some autonomy within reason. Let them lay out the plan to how they will complete their assignments. Check in to see how they are doing.
- Focus on Effort – Reward your child’s efforts, not the outcomes.
- Don’t Discuss Given Abilities – Don’t mention the inborn characteristics of your child. If they feel they have been dealt a bad hand, they may choose to not play it at all.
- Stay Affirming – Avoid hostility and anger when trying to get your child to do homework or class projects. Negative behavior will result in decreased student motivation. Focus on their strengths and they will be motivated to try harder.
- Avoid Punishments – Kids do better when parents focus on things that are going well with the child. Poor efforts need to be addressed with better strategies instead of punishments.
- Focus on Success – Give your child goals for achieving success instead of warnings for them to avoid failure.
Does This Sound Like Your Family?
Child – “Everybody says I’m supposed to do as good as my brothers did, but maybe I’m just not as smart as them; and what’s wrong with getting a “B” now and then?
Parent – “I’m not sure why she says we expect her to be perfect. There is no way I focus on her performance as much as she says I do.
Child – “People have no clue how alone I feel. I must be the only one who does not fit in.”
Parent – “I just want her to be successful and not get behind, which means she needs to start showing she is responsible and can do things she knows she needs to do.”
Child – “The kids who make me feel the worst aren’t really bullying me. It’s really just my fault, right?”
Parent – “I just want her to have friends and be liked a school. If she did better at school and had more confidence, she’d stop getting picked on.”
The Changing Definition of Family
“Family” generally implies individuals with biological or legal ties. However, for many, being a family does not require these conditions or that members live in the same home. Family Therapy is designed to help family members feel they belong to something larger than themselves and increase the sense of devotion between them. This is especially effective when at least one person is interested in work on self as a basis for being devoted to others.
Child and Adolescent Services at Braveability
Is your child hurting on the inside and wanting to be understood? Childhood and adolescence are magical times of skyrocketing and plummeting energy and feelings. Imagination and emotional displays are common for children and teens and often include resistance to parents. Braveability is not trying to fix the generation gap, but is committed to children and adolescents discovering who they are and how they can make the real world work.
- Your first meeting is complementary
- Your therapy is dedicated to questions you ask
- Your desire for difference is the focal point of each meeting
- You gain understanding of “self-therapy”, as a method for receiving therapeutic benefit anytime and anywhere
- You learn to pay attention to what you say and do, as a way of understanding how to be your best with others
- You can ask any person you desire to participate in any session
- Your therapy can take place in the comfort of your home
How Braveability is Different
Braveability is for ordinary people who need something extraordinary in life, especially in their interactions with others. In response to your difficulties and dissatisfaction, you will be taught little-known approaches for responding to hurts, fears, and anxieties with intention and awareness of purpose. In the daily circumstances of life, you will start standing firm in the truth and love that is possible for you and for those closest to you.
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About Braveability Counseling
Braveability Counseling offers individuals a difference in how they see themselves, especially in relationship to others. It offers individuals a new understanding of their questions and approaches to challenges and relationships, so they can be part of the difference that they want for themselves and others. Inner development becomes possible during these daily challenges and Braveability offers a new personalized approach that strengthens relationships by using life’s storms to figure out what stakeholders truly want and can receive in their lives.
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