“Each day, I have moments that are overcast and grey. My favorite activities just don’t seem as interesting as before. I use to love to have something to dream about and think about, to plan and do. Now, I mostly think about what my family needs, but despite trying to do what is helpful to them, I often am overwhelmed by life’s difficulties. Sometimes, I barely can handle the emptiness I feel, especially when I think about the past and missed opportunities.
I still need to sort out all the details of what I want to do for my family, but I never slow down long enough to do it. I know that meaningful time for members of my family does not require me to always be tackling a project, but I cannot just do nothing. When I slow down and pay attention to what is around me, I become more curious about others, which feels different and makes me glad I am alive and can be aware of their needs.”
A life of meaning and value includes feelings of wholeness and significance. People often associate living meaningfully with the goodness they desire for themselves and others. Many want goodness and the feelings it provides, but do not understand what is needed to receive what they desire. They have not been taught practices for using everyday circumstances to remind them how to use words and actions in ways that are good for themselves and others. This approach to inner development is core to everything offered at Braveability.
Many people say, “The only person I can change is myself”, yet often point to others as their reason for not changing. At times, it seems like other people interfere with my attempts to change, and I know I have interfered with changes others have tried to make.
In doing what I think is good, if the other person does not change, is the change I want still possible?
YES … by making the effort to align the desires of your heart with what you say and do.