WOMAN: “Why is it so hard for him to enjoy times like these and just be with me? He often brings up uncertainties and what-ifs. I have my own uncertainties, which is why I need to let go and just have fun. I really like that he follows me when I am having fun, but it would be great if sometimes he took the lead and not talk about his uncertainties and remind me of what he has not done for me.”
MAN: “Sometimes all I do is think about how we used to be and worry about what the future holds for us, instead of just being with her. Does she still remember the times we had and think about us like I do? I really like following her when she is having fun, but it reminds me I am not doing as much for her as I could. I am glad she does not hold back when I am not sure about having fun. Why do I still feel awkward when I am with her?”
A couple is two individuals who are married or in some way devoted to each other. Braveability is committed to such couples, but expands the concept of “couple” to include any two individuals who have an expectation of devotion. Couples Therapy emphasizes closeness between individuals, when at least one person feels devoted to the other and one or both desire to work on self.
In my relationship with another person, is there a way I can know I am not interfering with the good the other person might be attempting?
YES … by making the effort to see the perspective of the other and using this to guide what you say and do, without becoming distracted by what the other person does, or does not, say and do. This is easier than it seems, once you have learned what is needed to do it. At Braveability you will learn clear practices for making this possible